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i dont want my bf to marry his cousin from pakistan or go there and get bombed PLZ HELP?

his whole family is goin to pakistan.. in a week or two.. and she wants him to marry his cousin.. who is her brothers daughter... so basically her first cousin... i know that is gross.. anyways so we are both pakistani.. except i was born in england n now live in canada.. and he was born in pakistan and moved to canada in 2002.. i am 22 yrs old and he is 23 yrs old.. weve been together for 2 yrs and had no breakups, perfect relationship.. meet every single day.. get along great.. but all of a sudden his moms steppin in.. she caused a big drama.. and keeps cryin to him... and he cant c his mom cry.. anyways around feb 1st.. theyre suppose to leave.. but i want to stop him from leavin the country..cuz pakistan is not even safe rite now.. and i know she'll make him marry his cusin... he has a trial date on april 2.. in ontario for assault with weapon so he told his dad that he cant leave. . well his dad took him to the police station.. and they said he is allowed to leave as long as hes back before april 2.. so that sucks.. well.. I need a way to keep him here.. SOMEHOW.. I know its evil.. but id rather have him stay here.. then go somewhere where he could possibly get bombed.. anyways so.. I was thinking.. if someone called crime stoppers and told them that he is leavin.. and not planning on returnin til after april 2.. would they stop him? Or should I make him get into more trouble… like get caught with weed.. cuz he smokes it everyday.. and has a half quarter on him everyday atleast.. so should just make him get booked for that? I need some good ideas? Or should I write a letter to court pretendin to be him .. sayin that I don’t want to leave the country.. but my parents are makin me.. and maybe they will send an order sayin he cant leave? Any suggestions ? well id rather have him here.. n get into a little trouble.. then ruin his life and insest his cousin.. and have retarded babies.. and/or get bombed in Pakistan….

Public Comments

1. Get pregnant then.
2. i think people around him are affected by contact buzz. what kind of weed does he smoke again?
3. Please dont stop him from doing anything. He is 23 yrs old which means that he is old enough to make his own decisions. Let him make his own mistakes and if it was meant to be then it will be.
4. Wow, and I thought only us white people could be trailer trash. Go on Jerry Springer and get it sorted out there.
5. 1) His marriage won't be legal in the US/Canada if he marrys his 1st cousin. 2) If he has a return ticket that shows him arriving back here before April 2nd, nothing will happen. 3) Getting him busted for pot, may be a violation of whatever bond he is on for his assault charge and could very well land him in jail and maybe screw up his status in Canada. I would just suggest getting together with someone whose family does not hold such sway over him...aka: Mamma's boy. Sorry.
6. Wow, I think you need to lay off the weed. Assault with a weapon and smokes weed huh? Sounds like a keeper. He's 23, a grown man, can't he just move out and fend for himself if he really doesn't want to go with his parents? I understand the cultural issues that go with that, but at some point if it's important enough, you take a stand.
7. you could just find someone better who doesn't smoke weed or someone who won't leave you
8. you have some serious abandonment issues all the unhanded stuff your suggesting could prolong his stay in Canada but do you only want to see him from behind bars ?? He is grown maybe he wants to go with his family & doesn't have the balls to tell u !!
9. First, he's an adult who needs to stand up to his parents. If he doesn't do that, then he's not much of a man. I know, he'll probably lose out with his family, but if the choice were you or his family, a decent man would pick you. Then there's the whole assault with a weapon thing going on. Why are you dating someone who uses weapons on other people? Now let's discuss his weed addiction. Why are you dating a pothead? Now, maybe things haven't been as perfect in the last 2 years as you'd like us to believe they were. Perfect relationships don't involve weed, assault charges, or mama's boys.
10. First thing I would like to say is that in the UK marriage between first cousins is perfectly legal. It was once outlawed in circa the 1800 because so many inter married.....especially Royalty. However that has long since been rescinded. Second thing I would like to say is that as the daughter of married first cousins I feel quite sad that even in this day and age so many people still hold misconceptions and think it is "gross". Still, prejudice and ignorance come in many guises.
11. Its common practice in pakistan to marry cousins -- And he will come back married, and frankly I think thats the best thing for him, He is using drugs, and going to jail for assault, and YOU want him to stay here so you can have HIM? You don't love him , or trust him, because if you did you wouldn't want him to go to jail, or let him use drugs, or anything of the sort, I will pray his mom can convince him PS If you get pregnant your being foolish because your baby's daddy will be living in Pakistan, and you should know that pakistani culture doesn't care about babies made out of wedlock, they will not turn their heads ONCE in regret. Trust me , this will NOT make him stay, it will make him run away M
12. he is old enough to make his own decisions and if he really loves you he can just tell his parents and he will stay. the same way he is able to smoke and get in trouble with out parents permission is the same way he can just stay here with you.
13. he probably has a relationship with his family and gets along with them that he cant stand to see his mom cry
14. Whole Pakistan is not getting bombs on daily basis, its only few parts and few target people who can get these bombs and people around them will also get these bombs.