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i dont want my bf to marry his cousin from pakistan or go there and get bombed PLZ HELP?

his whole family is goin to pakistan.. in a week or two.. and she wants him to marry his cousin.. who is her brothers daughter... so basically her first cousin... i know that is gross.. anyways so we are both pakistani.. except i was born in england n now live in canada.. and he was born in pakistan and moved to canada in 2002.. i am 22 yrs old and he is 23 yrs old.. weve been together for 2 yrs and had no breakups, perfect relationship.. meet every single day.. get along great.. but all of a sudden his moms steppin in.. she caused a big drama.. and keeps cryin to him... and he cant c his mom cry.. anyways around feb 1st.. theyre suppose to leave.. but i want to stop him from leavin the country..cuz pakistan is not even safe rite now.. and i know she'll make him marry his cusin... he has a trial date on april 2.. in ontario for assault with weapon so he told his dad that he cant leave. . well his dad took him to the police station.. and they said he is allowed to leave as long as hes back before april 2.. so that sucks.. well.. I need a way to keep him here.. SOMEHOW.. I know its evil.. but id rather have him stay here.. then go somewhere where he could possibly get bombed.. anyways so.. I was thinking.. if someone called crime stoppers and told them that he is leavin.. and not planning on returnin til after april 2.. would they stop him? Or should I make him get into more trouble… like get caught with weed.. cuz he smokes it everyday.. and has a half quarter on him everyday atleast.. so should just make him get booked for that? I need some good ideas? Or should I write a letter to court pretendin to be him .. sayin that I don’t want to leave the country.. but my parents are makin me.. and maybe they will send an order sayin he cant leave? Any suggestions ? well id rather have him here.. n get into a little trouble.. then ruin his life and insest his cousin.. and have retarded babies.. and/or get bombed in Pakistan…. he is a canadian citizen

Public Comments

1. Kidnap him. Do it preferably right before the rest of the family is scheduled to go to Pakistan.
2. He is 23, a grown man. If he can't stand up to his family on this, he will never be independent from them and have a life with you. It is entirely within his control. He can refuse and not go. You have no legal power to stop this. Everything you are thinking about is illegal in some way and will cause trouble for either you or him. p.s. - dating a guy who is up on a felony weapons charge and who doesn't have the strength to stand up to his family and refuse a trip/marriage he doesn't want, is not my definition of a perfect relationship. Good luck with that.
3. Convince him that you two should be married RIGHT NOW. If he is married to you, he can't marry his cousin. He may also choose to stay instead of return with his mother.
4. Tell him how you feel. If he loves you he will do whats right. And if he really wants to go then you should let him leave. I'd tell him to cut the cord and be a man. He is old enough to choose wat he wants to do. And if mommy dont like it she can get the hell over it. And she will. And if for some reason she doesnt. The sucks to be her. AS for her making him marry his cousin. Thats just nasty. Ask her if she wants deformed grandshildren who have medical problems becasue she MADE her son marry family. I would not get him in trouble on purpose. That stuff goes on your record. And may in the long run keep him from getting a good job and other things. Be an adult about it...and talk to him about how you feel!
5. In pakistan it is normal to marry in the family and anyway he should not go against his family for you, sorry but that is what is more inportant. It doesnt sound like he is living a very good life here so he should leave he will lead a better life there. Dont you want him to be happy and want the best for him???? It is nasty to marry your cousin but that is our opinion and you should leave it alone. sorry.
6. Let him make his own decisions! if he wants to go.. then he should be allowed. if he doesnt want to go.. then he will stay! with you! but to be honest he doesnt sound that great assualt and weed? maybe you should let him marry his cousin! you could be better off without him x
7. Wow - I deal with a lot of multicultural relationship issues, but this is something else entirely. It can't really surprise you as a Pakistani that the culture involves arranged marriages, and who to, and when guys go back to get married. You might not like it, but come on, you at least know that this stuff happens, right? And so did he, right? So, you are both caught between two worlds. In a away , you are n it together, but his actions will tell you which he prefers. If he isn't making any effort to not go, then he is either resigned to it, or wants to do it. He has made his choice. consider that carefully. We all get our hearts broken by our first love. And also consider carefully your desperate plans to keep him there. Getting him arrested for weed (and yourself most likely) will probably get you both in jail or worse - he especially can be deported for good. And realistically, that may be part of the issue with the pending trial. He MAY be subject to deportation. He may know that and be planning to not return, or the family may be thinking that if he is married that will somehow help his case. Or it may all be a tempest in a teapot - he may go to Pakistan and he may or may nt get married there, and if he does he may not be able to bring his bride back to Canada anyway. That means the family will be happy because he is married, and he will be in Canada with you. If you don't go messing things up with overwrought drama.