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Question only to muslims and for specially for my bro/sis from pakistani or indian background?

Asslamuallikum, I am 22 year old Pakistani student living in UK. I come from modern but still religious family who values religion a lot. I am in very complex situation right now, and this is related to my marrige to my first cousin who lives in virginia, USA. She is 17 years old studying in high school and she aslo comes from modern but still religious family as she is a daughter of my uncle(mamoon) mother's brother. From my maternal side I have 3 uncles and my mom, and Allahhamdulliah there have never been any problem between us and we are just like one big family. And the relation I have with my uncle and aunty is just like my mom and dad. So my problem is I got engaged to my cousin last year in july. And this engagement brought lots and lots of happiness in our family because it was my mom's and my uncle's dream come true. And I was also very very happy because I liked the girl a lot. Since past 2 months I have noticed a change in behaviour of my fiance to me. I tried to figure the problem but she never told. She always said I get tired while working (she is working in a store called TARGET) or there is a lot stress at school. Recently I found out she has been dating some mexican guy from her work and they often go out. And in the same week I found out that during this whole 1 year she dated and broke up with 3 guys. And for the proof I hacked her email address and found her pics kissing that guy. After getting to know about all this stuff I was totally shocked. And I missed my exams because she cheated on me. As I was seriously in love with her, and my uncle, aunt and my mom were doing wedding preparations back home. About 3 to 4 days back I called her mom and told her everything and also told this thing to my mom. Yesterday my aunt called me and she was crying on the phone. She said my daughter have done something really really bad and she has realized that and want to appologise for everything. And she would do anything if I ask her to do. As I am very very religious person and I value my family a lot because if this relation break this will bring shame not to her family but also to my family because we are just one. My mom have left everything on me and all rest of the family members are crying to save this relationship. But over here I can't understand how can I forgive a girl who slept with another guy and this engagement never ment anything to her. No she says I am sorry, and ready to do anything I say. I always used to say her to take hijab as all of her other cousin took hijab and prayed 5 times and were very modest, but she never listen to me. No I am in the situation that I can not let down the uncle and aunt I loved the most and even my rest of the family who were so happy for this relationship. And on the other hand I cannot see my fiance's face again becuase I saw her kissing that guy and that is way too much for a person like me because its been almost 2 years for me in Uk and I have never been to any club/bar or touched any girl. PLease help me I am really really confused here and don't know what to do because I will be going to pakistan next week and they are also goign to pakistan the week following week. And my uncle doesn't know the whole drama because if he finds out he will either kill his daughter or kill himself because for him this marrige was everything.. PLease help me.

Public Comments

1. Do it the Muslim's way. What are the punishments for adultery. She knew the rule and she broke the rule.
2. sorry about your dilemma brother .. but i think you have to break the engagement. dont' you think she will just cheat on you again in the future. is she really sorry or is she being made to say so by her parents?
3. if u break marriage with her and marry some other girl .do u really think she will be loyal to you ur whole life? thats how it is in todays world.every couple that gets married neither bride nor groom is virgin at that time .do u know that?
4. Asalam-o-Alaikum, You are not married to her. You mean nothing to her and she proved that. It is good you were only engaged. Break up with her without giving any reason and never speak of her and the engagement again. If I were you, I won't take the risk. I can not forgive if my spouse or spouse-to-be did such a thing.